The secret to living well and longer is: eat half, walk double, laugh triple and love without measure. –Tibetan Proverb
We’ve reached the last of our “Live-Laugh-Love” posts. I mentioned earlier this week that I would explain later why the theme is significant to me. “Live, Laugh, Love” was my sister Karlette’s mantra. If you’ve been following my blog for a few years, you know that we lost her to breast cancer in 2013. I still miss her terribly and think about her every single day. The theme of the latest Global Art Swap provided an opportunity to honor her memory.
It is significant that I’m posting what I sent for the swap today because today is Karlette’s birthday, and as I struggle to move past deep sadness, I find it necessary to revisit the words I shared with pen friends regarding the significance of the theme to me.
Karlette lived as much as she could during her short sojourn on this earth; she loved to laugh and she loved so deeply that she was “everybody’s” best friend. Her middle school students and their parents adored her because she poured so much life, love, and laughter into her students. I learned so much from her and came to so many realizations because of how she handled her many rounds with cancer.
We were designed to LIVE abundantly—to fill life with all the good things we can hold. Yet many of us have trouble with “living” a good life because we allow worries, the past, unforgiveness, and so many annoying trifles to get in the way. Problems–struggles–are inevitable, but we don’t have to make such strife central in our lives. In spite of all the trauma and drama, we can choose joy and squeeze every ounce of the good stuff out of life. When we live in the fullness of joy, those “other things” don’t gain much of our attention and we can embrace the good life.
After my sister’s passing–like many who experience the death of a loved one–grief had me in a slow, tightening grip. Although I knew the process was necessary, I still needed to be present and functional. In an effort to shake myself out of the darkness, I called an aunt–a trained counselor–and she encouraged me to laugh. She told me to simply find some funny television shows or movies and LAUGH out loud. That was the best advice she could have offered at the time. I had forgotten how to smile. I’d forgotten that the most basic thing that makes us feel alive is laughter. And—the bonus—I felt so connected to my sister because she loved to laugh. My aunt’s advice has come in handy quite frequently over the last four years as I found the grief of losing my sister intertwined with other losses.
Laughter also has a way of bridging gaps and mending broken fences, so take it into those relationships that are strained. Find the humor in what may have created a rift. Try not to take life so seriously and make it a point to laugh often—even at yourself. It is certainly medicine for the soul.
LOVE is the most complex part of the theme. Love is easy when people are loving and loveable, but the journey to becoming a truly loving human is beautifully painful. We have to learn to love those who are mean, hateful, and abusive and those who don’t love us. It takes a tremendous amount of soul work to love in this way, but the beauty it creates in us and in the world is without measure. Please note that “love” does not equal acceptance or tolerance of abuse in any form.
I recently watched a video on the protests in Charlottesville, VA, filmed to capture the perspective of the white nationalists who organized the event. Though repulsed by the faulty reasoning, the language and attitudes against non-Whites, Jews, and homosexuals, I felt a huge wave of compassion for the protesters. How sad it is to live with such hatred and willingness to harm others! How inhumane to wish to annihilate others or strip them of human rights!
No matter our vast differences, true love knows no bounds. We must do the hard work and learn to love those who hate us. Kahlil Gibran’s “On Love” captures this far better than I can.
The card I originally created (above) is very pink because that was Karlette’s favorite color. I designed it in a few other colors to appeal to the tastes of family members who will be receiving the card soon.
If you or someone you know is dealing with breast cancer, visit the Karle’s Wings link (above), and a bit of light and joy will wing its way soon…
12 thoughts on “Live Well. Laugh Triple. Love Without Measure.”
Beautiful tribute and post. Hugs and love to you on this day especially.
Thank you, Dr. Mon. Your kindness is deeply felt.
Kindest thoughts dear friend on that very special day ❤️
Thank you, Louise! Hugs to you, dear friend.
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Beautiful tribute. Very touching & inspirational. Sending hugs & kisses❤️
Thank you, LaVerta! And a happy birthday to you too! (I know I’m a little late, but you know where my head was).
A wonderful tribute! I love the different versions you did, and your post was thought provoking. Sending prayers, and wishing you Joy Chandra!
Thank you, Sheila, for your kind words and your prayers and well wishes. Hugs, my artist friend!
Hello Chandra! I received my card from you today in the Love Note exchange! I am so glad to have been paired up with you! Your blog is wonderful! I am going to be coming back quite often as I love your positive attitude! This post is an awesome tribute to your sister! Your photo cards that you sent are just beautiful! I love the gorgeous hibiscus flower and the train tracks are perfect for this journey! I look forward to getting to know you better! Lori in NJ!!
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Hi Lori! So happy you received. I received #1 and #2 from you. My #2 and 3 will be on the way to you this week. It’s been a long, hard month, so please forgive me for the delay. Thank you for loving the cards. Look for me in the mail soon. 🙂