Heartwounds | #WordlessWednesday

I left my final class of the day saddened by comments made by one of the students. In our discussion about how two films define love, forgiveness, redemption, hope, and freedom, she spewed venom about love in a way that shocked most of the other students.

Sometimes it’s easier for a wounded individual to speak from anger than it is to confront deep pain, but, as an English professor, it’s not my place to “psychoanalyze” her or any other student. It is my “job,” however, to help her develop sound intellectual traits. But, because of her wound, she could not see the shortsightedness of her thinking.

I thought about my student this evening as I was reading through Anointed to Fly, a poetry collection by Dr. Gloria Wade Gayles. The words of “Heartwounds” [below] seemed to leap off the page. With incredible insight, the poem describes the  persistent ache of a woman who [once] loved.  I thought about my student as I read the poem.

“Heartwounds”
Gloria Wade Gayles, Anointed to Fly

Some men have not learned that heartwounds
as deep as a woman’s need for love
do not respond to phoney curatives
of roses, sweetened words and
make-up passion in scented rooms.

They do not heal themselves
with the passing of time
which erases time only
but not pain and the memory
of pain.

Let untreated
heartwounds become
sores
scabs
scars
ugly reminders of flawed love.

Some men believe
women were born
to endure
to understand
to forgive
to be irrational in all things.

It is that way,
they tell us,
with the pull of the moon.

They will not learn
perhaps cannot learn
that a woman’s heart
damaged by multiple wounds
beats faintly

and then

not
at
all

I’m sorry this isn’t a happy poem, and that this #WordlessWednesday is kind of wordy. You can skip the poem and just look at the pretty picture if you wish. I’ve been practicing photographing roses, so you’ll see another rose photo soon.

18 thoughts on “Heartwounds | #WordlessWednesday”

  1. lloydslensphotographyllc says:
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    I’m not sure where I heard it first but “All excess comes from emptiness.” The saying was from something my wife came across while researching her book about depression. People drink, do drugs are promiscuous because they’re trying to fill a void in their lives with the wrong thing. Because what they’ve chosen to fill with isn’t really what they need they crave it in excess. Believe it or not, anger is also an addiction. It imparts a false sense of strength and security. This person must have had a hard time being accepted and since love us the ultimate expression of acceptance she rejects the idea that she needs to be accepted. The bad news is that like all addictions the addict has to want freedom more than the thing they’re addicted to wants them.
    I know that’s less positive than my normal comments but it’s how I felt lead say. I’ll be praying for you and your student. ❤

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