Loss and grief are inevitable parts of life. We know this, but that doesn’t make it easier to manage. In fact, the inevitable is often a source of anxiety for some. Despite how ab-so-lute-ly awful it is, grief teaches us many lessons about life, love, and ourselves. Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned.
- Love is more powerful than we can ever find words for or even imagine. We continue loving long after the person is gone.
- Grief is a journey for one. Others may grieve the loss of the same person, but not the same loss. Every loss is personal and the journey to healing individual.
- There is no “getting over” a loss, but eventually the wound will heal. As with all wounds, there will be scars.
- Grief stays with us. It morphs and shape-shifts until it settles into our beings.
- Eventually, we learn to live with grief, but our hearts may never stop aching.
- The gaping, person-sized hole inside never gets filled. We miss the person for the rest of our days on earth, but mingled with the pain will be fond memories and laughter.
- It is important that we find space to express ourselves and talk about our loved ones.
- We should never apologize for grieving, even if it makes others uncomfortable.
- The Divine draws closer to us when we grieve (Psalm 34:18).
- We learn how to sit in the dark and still believe in Light.
What lessons have you learned from grief?